We are hoping to grow our family through domestic, infant adoption. This page is written to expectant parents contemplating an adoption plan. We appreciate your interest in us. Please feel free to contact us with any questions.
We already love you. If and when we meet you, we will likely be highly emotional. Not from joy or expectation or hope, but because we know that for you to come to this table, your heart is likely full. Full of questions, worry, heartbreak, doubt, fear, and other strong and difficult emotions. We see you and we love you.
We adopted our daughter Audrey in 2019 and have grown in love for her birth family. They hold a special place in our hearts and lives because of their role in bringing Audrey into this world and into ours. We value and respect our daughter’s birth family. We promise the same for you.
While we don’t know exactly what it’s like to be in your shoes, we know what loss feels like. We know what sadness and sacrifice feel like. And we have tremendous respect for you. We have a wonderfully open adoption with our daughter’s birth family. We have family that have placed children for adoption, and we have family who were themselves adopted. We have witnessed all sides of the story. One thing that we want to make absolutely clear is that in our home, birth parents are loved, respected, and admired.
We want our children to know both their biological and adopted heritage. It is important to us that an adopted child knows the love that brought him or her to our home. We are happy to explore with expectant parents the level of openness that works for us all. As we get to know each other, we will be able to decide together what type of relationship works for you and for us. We hope that you are willing to explore those avenues with us.
With all that said, whether you choose us as your adoption plan or not, please know that we love you. We admire you. We pray for you. And we wish you every happiness.
And on that note, let’s tell you a bit about who we are.
We really like each other. We’ve been married since 2016. It took us a long time to find each other, but it was well worth the wait! We are nerdy and goofy together, love collecting vinyl records and listening to music, and just doing as much as we can together.
Valerie lived in Arizona since high school, and Dennis is originally from Salt Lake City, Utah. After spending the first four years of our marriage in Arizona, we traded the heat for actual weather and moved to the Salt Lake City area. We are at home in both Salt Lake and Phoenix. We are in our early 40s. We have our daughter Audrey and our 12-year-old pup Chuck (a tri-color cocker spaniel).
Dennis teaches high school English, and Valerie is a stay-at-home mom. We both grew up with families who made that sacrifice to be a one-income family, and we feel it is important for our children to have a parent at home, particularly during transition times (leaving for school, coming home from school, etc). We feel that it is important for both parents to be involved as much as possible in raising children.
Dennis is a writer and a poet. He loves to read, and Valerie and Dennis enjoy reading books together. He is passionate about education and has taught junior high or high school for 11 years. Dennis has a Master’s in curriculum and instruction, and a Bachelor’s in English. His career goal is to be involved in curriculum development and teacher training. He is currently working on his Admin certificate. He loves his students and puts his heart and soul into helping his kids prepare for college.
Valerie is a singer (although her audience is mostly her daughter these days). She spent a few years in college studying music education and voice performance. She loves singing in choirs when she can. Valerie switched gears about halfway through college and ended with a Bachelor’s in Political Science. Although she enjoyed the course of study, she’s happy to not be involved in politics in any way 😊.
Our TV tastes include The Office, Parks and Recreation, Survivor, and the occasional crime drama. Dennis loves to watch sports, and Valerie loves to do puzzles during the games. In fact, playing with LEGOs is super fun for Valerie. Our music tastes are varied, and we like everything from classical to 90s hip hop. Our date nights often include Café Rio and a movie or shopping. We love spending time with nieces and nephews. We love home improvement projects, road trips, and lava lamps. We (well, Dennis mostly) collect vinyl records and play them often. Audrey loves dancing to the music. We like hiking and camping and rock concerts and lots of other things.
We just love being together. With our children, we want to be together as much as possible. While we know that life gets busy, we have dinner together every night. We make time for each other and plan to do the same for our children. Nothing is more important to us than family.
Our Family Goals
We have both wanted children our whole lives. For various reasons, the blessing of children was withheld for a time. Since we met, we anticipated that adoption was in our future. We have been preparing our hearts and home, and we have spent a great deal of time discussing our parenting plans. Since Audrey joined our family, we have put these into practice. We are happy to share some of them with you, and we hope that they resonate with your dreams for your baby.
We value kindness. We have both seen how rude remarks, sarcasm, and anger can tear a family apart. We try every day to be kind to one another, even when tension is high and we are stressed and upset. We hope to teach our children to be kind to one another and to others. We believe that family is the best place to practice this value.
We value forgiveness. We know that we are going to make mistakes. We have made mistakes with each other, and we strive to be quick to forgive. We believe that most people do not intend to cause harm, hurt, or hard feelings. We believe in the goodness of people and try to forgive when we are hurt. We believe that it is important to acknowledge our parenting mistakes, and to ask forgiveness of our children when we make mistakes.
We value education and learning. We believe in learning together as a family. We believe in helping our children be successful and adapting learning experiences to their individual needs. We expect our children to graduate high school and college with good grades, and we believe in encouraging them to find their passion.
We value fun and laughter. Since we have been married, there has not been a single day that we have not laughed at least once, even in the most trying circumstances. We believe in being silly and in finding the humor in life’s situations. We feel that laughter and fun are essential to living a good life, and we work to make our home as fun and happy as we can. Dance parties to the spinning vinyl records are a regular occurrence.
We believe in God. We know that we have Heavenly Parents that love us more than we can comprehend. We have faith in Jesus Christ as the Savior of our souls and the Example we should follow. We pray together and we read scriptures together. While we do not always understand some of the challenges we are asked to face, we know that our Heavenly Parents love us. We strive to teach our daughter to love and respect all humankind in all our beautiful colors, shapes, beliefs, and personalities. Someday we all will know the reasons behind our individual and collective struggles, and we will have joy with our families forever.
We can also be found on Instagram @DennisAndValerie and on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/DennisAndValerie. Please message us on either of these sites! We look forward to hearing from you!