We are hoping to grow our family through domestic, infant adoption. This page is written to expectant mothers contemplating an adoption plan. We appreciate your interest in us. Please feel free to contact us with any questions.
How to write this? We have thought a great deal about how to introduce ourselves to you. Nothing feels right. We know that you have a monumental choice to make, and we can’t even begin to imagine how that feels.
What we can share with you is that while we don’t know exactly what it’s like to be in your shoes, we know what loss feels like. We know what sadness and sacrifice feel like. And we have tremendous respect for you. We have family that have placed children for adoption. We have friends who have adopted children, and we have family who are themselves adopted. We have witnessed all sides of the story. One thing that we want to make absolutely clear is that in our home, birth mothers are loved, respected, and admired.
We want our child to know his or her heritage. It is important to us that an adopted child knows the love that brought him or her to our home. We are happy to explore with our birth mom the level of openness that works for us all. As we get to know each other, we will be able to decide together what type of relationship works for you and for us. We hope that you are willing to explore those avenues with us.
With all that said, whether you choose us as your adoption plan or not, please know that we love you. We admire you. We pray for you. And we wish you every happiness.
And on that note, let’s tell you a bit about who we are:
We really like each other. We’ve been married since 2016. It took us a long time to find each other, but it was well worth the wait! We are nerdy and goofy together, love collecting vinyl records and listening to music, and just doing as much as we can together.
Valerie has lived in Arizona since high school, and Dennis married into the Zonie life (he’s originally from Salt Lake City, Utah). We are in our early 40s. We own our home and have two fish and two dogs—Chuck (the black cocker spaniel) and Scout (the tan min-pin/pommy mix 😊).
Dennis teaches 11th and 12th grade English, including International Baccalaureate (IB) and Dual Enrollment classes. Valerie is an executive assistant at an OBGYN practice and works from home 3 days a week and in Chandler 2 days a week.
Our ultimate goal is for Valerie to be a stay-at-home mom. We both grew up with mothers who made that sacrifice, and we feel it is important for our children to have a parent at home, particularly during transition times (leaving for school, coming home from school, etc). We feel that it is important for both parents to be involved as much as possible in raising children.
Dennis is a writer and a poet. He loves to read, and Valerie and Dennis enjoy reading books together. He is passionate about education and has taught junior high or high school for about 9 years. Dennis has a Master’s in curriculum and instruction, and a Bachelor’s in English. His career goal is to be involved in curriculum development and teacher training. He loves his students and puts his heart and soul into helping his juniors and seniors prepare for college.
Valerie is a singer (although her audience is mostly her husband and dogs these days). She spent a few years in college studying music education and voice performance. She loves singing in choirs when she can. Valerie switched gears about halfway through college and ended with a Bachelor’s in Political Science. Although she enjoyed the course of study, she’s happy to not be involved in politics in any way 😊.
Our TV tastes include The Office, Parks and Recreation, and the occasional crime drama. Dennis loves to watch sports, and Valerie loves to do puzzles during the games. In fact, playing with LEGOs is super fun for Valerie. Our music tastes are varied, and we like everything from classical to 90s hip hop. Our date nights often include Café Rio and a movie or shopping. We love spending time with nieces and nephews. We love home improvement projects, road trips, and lava lamps. We like hiking and camping and lots of other things.
We just love being together. With our children, we want to be together as much as possible. While we know that life gets busy, we have dinner together every night. We make time for each other and plan to do the same for our children. Nothing is more important to us than family.
Our Family Goals
We have both wanted children our whole lives. For various reasons, the blessing of children has so far been withheld. Since we met, we anticipated that adoption was in our future. We have been preparing our hearts and home, and we have spent a great deal of time discussing our parenting plans. We are happy to share some of them with you, and we hope that they resonate with your dreams for your baby.
We value kindness. We have both seen how rude remarks, sarcasm, and anger can tear a family apart. We try every day to be kind to one another, even when tension is high and we are stressed and upset. We hope to teach our children to be kind to one another and to others. We believe that family is the best place to practice this value.
We value forgiveness. We know that we are going to make mistakes. We have made mistakes with each other, and we strive to be quick to forgive. We believe that most people do not intend to cause harm, hurt, or hard feelings. We believe in the goodness of people and try to forgive when we are hurt. We believe that it is important to acknowledge our parenting mistakes, and to ask forgiveness of our children when we make mistakes.
We value education and learning. We believe in learning together as a family. We believe in helping our children be successful and adapting learning experiences to their individual needs. We expect our children to graduate high school and college with good grades, and we believe in encouraging them to find their passion.
We value fun and laughter. Since we have been married, there has not been a single day that we have not laughed at least once, even in the most trying circumstances. We believe in being silly and in finding the humor in life’s situations. We feel that laughter and fun are essential to living a good life, and we plan to make our home as fun and happy as we can.
We believe in God. We know that He is our Father and that He loves us. We have faith in His Son, Jesus Christ, as the Savior of our souls. We pray together and we read scriptures together. While we do not always understand some of the challenges we are asked to face, we know that Heavenly Father loves us as a parent loves a child. Someday we will know the reasons behind all of our struggles and we will have joy with our families forever.
We can also be found on Instagram @DennisAndValerie, on twitter @DandVAdopting and on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/DennisAndValerie. Please message us on any of these sites! We look forward to hearing from you!