Three years ago….

This… Little did we know three years ago where this little conversation would lead… #hopingtoadopt #hopefuladoptiveparents #adoption

We met online in the summer of 2015. Dennis said that he messaged me because he liked my photo with the pink cake (our friend Allie takes credit, and rightly so, for our introduction because she made that cake for my birthday). I messaged back because he was an English teacher, and I found that fascinating.

We messaged about 5 or 6 times that day, and then again the day after, and again the day after. Our messages became deep and emotionally intimate quite quickly, and we knew that we had made a connection that we had to explore further. We graduated to phone calls on Day 5, when the messages got way too long and had to be split into 3 parts b/c too many characters!

Our phone calls lasted for hours and hours, and we could not wait for work to be over so we could talk. The same emotional intimacy we had in our messages continued in our phone calls. We talked about everything! And we found that we had very similar philosophies on life, and very similar emotional styles. We met in-person three weeks later, and knew immediately we loved each other. He proposed about 45 days after we met in person.

We waited so long and experienced so much heartache before we found each other, but we wouldn’t trade it for anything. Our past experiences are what make us the people we are today, and they are what we have used as a springboard to create a phenomenal marriage. We feel so grateful to have found each other. It feels wonderful to be married to a best friend. We approach our marriage as the most precious thing we have. We cherish each other, we uplift each other, and we make decisions every day to put the other first. We are so blessed to have had this wonderful beginning. <3


I  (Valerie) love roller coasters. So as part of our Summer Tour 2018, Dennis took me to Lagoon in Salt Lake City. We had so much fun! We went on all the big rides: Cannibal, Wicked, Colossus, and all the other stuff. Dennis got to hear my blood curdling screams followed by delirious laughter. I am sure that Dennis had claw marks in his hands on the really scary ones. Dennis isn’t much of a screamer on these rides. He was pretty calm until the last couple of rides. I heard one or two little bursts of sound from him, but other than that, I was the noisy one of the pair. It was really fun to see that different side of our personalities.



This is Valerie.

_R3A8705She is probably looking over at Dennis who is doing something silly to make her laugh. Valerie has a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science that she does nothing with (she even occasionally ends sentences with a preposition). She often says that her degree helped her prove to herself that she secretly hated politics. She started out as a music major, focusing in vocal performance. Her lifelong goal has been to be a wife and mother, and she switched majors so that she could more fully focus on evening and weekend time with her family. 

Valerie works for a local OBGYN company as an Executive Assistant. She’s worked in that field for 13+ years. She loves the company where she works and will likely remain with them in some capacity as long as she remains in the job market. 

Valerie is generally a very happy person. She is outgoing and enjoys getting to know new people. She finds people to be fascinating. She loves to find out what motivates them and drives them, and will often point to a person walking down the street and wonder out loud what their life is like. Valerie is motivated by other people’s needs and wants. She loves to try to make other people, especially her family, comfortable and happy. 

In college, Valerie performed in a number of musical theatre productions in character roles. Her favorite role of all time was as Adelaide in Guys and Dolls. She loves to sing and dance, though these days it’s mostly around the house. Valerie has sung in many, many choirs over the years. She even made a CD that only her mom listens to. 

She likes to run in the early, early morning, but hates to run in the afternoon or evening. Valerie’s running playlist is exclusively Disney songs. She loves going to concerts with her hubby and really enjoys the vinyl collection they are building together. 

She’s a pretty okay gal, and her husband thinks she is all that.